hence go with my steps....

what steps? you said two random idiotic things together in a sentence and those are STEPS?

I'm sure there are better manuals for said situation.

lmao... for kicks i asked my girl (yea, i'm a freak, sue me)... she said sometimes it hrts and sometimes it doesn't, it depends on how hard i go or if she's 'ready for it' w/e the fuck that means... my advice is, if she's scared, don't do it, and if she's not trying to get pregnant, use a condom no matter where ur putting ur dick, nuff said...

all of that's in what I said ..

Sorry let me break it down in laymens terms..

Step 1: Tell her no it doesnt hurt
Step 2: Actually do it so she thinks shes getting the pain out the way
Step 3: Do it multiple times after the first time at various intervals spanning the relationship...

easier for you to follow?