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Originally Posted by Daubs
Im being told by my school i got to have it, im currently regularly seeing our schoo counseler but she says its beyond her how to controll my agression, she's a top woman n that but dont know what to do so yeah...
Anyone had it before, i dont know what to expect.. =/
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well...I'm not a therapist and I'm not going to pretend to know how to cure you "ills". However, I can tell you what worked and is working for me in many cases.
Anger is just an outward expression of something deeper inside. Anger can sometimes be an expression of fear or just bitterness in itself. Regardless of what's causing your anger, you're going to have to root out that source in order to move forward. This means this. You're literally going to have to rethink and retrace the last time you weren't this angry and determine where the hurt/bitterness arose. Though anger and its consequences are often progressive, this is usually ONE MOMENT in your life that set you on a downward spiral. Once you identify the source/sources of your bitterness, root it out. Man, let me tell you, bitterness will RUIN YOUR LIFE. If it means forgiving someone, do that. It's not that they "deserve it", but YOU deserve to move on with your life. If it means confronting someone who hurt you, do that. The point is, you have to come to terms with WHATEVER has happened in your life so that you can ACCEPT who you are now. Then, and only then, can you begin to have high self esteem and realize you DESERVE to be happy and successful so you can move on with your life.
In a nutshell:
1. Determine the exact moment/moments you became bitter (really all that anger is)
2. Root it out
3. Come to terms with what's happened in your life
4. Forgive yourself and those who have wronged you.
5. Move on happily
You CAN NOT move on with your life until you forgive yourself and those who have wronged you.
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