Originally Posted by Tha Q.
Yea...you def. have to look at people's motives and intent...However, even after forgiving someone, it's probably best to "unplug" from them and move on because they are toxic to you.
Example: Mad Dog
This guy would IM me out the blue and want to have a conversation. I was cool with that. But, I noticed that the way he acted on AIM wasn't the way he was acting towards me on RV.
On AIM, he'd tell me about his life, etc. And, I would be considerate and listen to him. Then, I'd come on RV and see where he was basically trying to clown me in a thread over something that had nothing to do with the AIm convo.
After confronting him on AIM about it, he basically took on an unapologetic tone. So, I said, "fugg off."
Then, he went on the attack, suggesting that I'm a pedophile, and all these other derogatory things.
^^^Now, as a Christian, I forgive him for lashing out like that. But, I'm DONE with Mad Dog. I'd be a fool to continue to talk with him as if nothing is wrong. But, as strange as that is, he would, if I allowed it, AIM me again as if nothing is wrong with calling me a pedophile and trying to humiliate me on RV.
It's about self respect. People do to you what you allow. And, I choose not to deal with people like Mad Dog because they are vindictive and spiteful. I forgive him. But, I'm done with him, PERMANENTLY.
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