speaking of ducking cali how about you go and peep the thread at the top of LL

and i agree it can be considered selfish but as someone else said it can be seen as a double standard if one says it is selfish due to their caring about the impact it would have on them.

and everyone has at least one weakness, whether physical, psychological or emotional (albeit to varying degrees most probably) so no one should be rushing in to label it weak as that is also hypocrasy in itself