Man, i'm not with either of them any longer. But this is how it went down, I was dating heather for 3 years right? Well, while she was pregnant with Jaden i fucked around on her with Christine. This continued the whole time heather was pregnant. I mean i really started developing feelings for christine, but i mean i was about to have a KID with heather you know. i had to straighten up. i didn't want to do her like that, anyways. So May 25 2007 comes around, and we have Jaden. Not 2 weeks later, about a month since the last time i seen christine. she calls me, and says SHE'S pregnant. So all together Layla, my little girl. And Jaden are ONLY 9 months apart. lmao, i know thats bad. like the exact same ammount of time it takes to have a kid, is how far apart they are...Anyways, i've been raising Jaden by myself for the past year and a half. This dumb bitch heather calls me out of the blue yesterday and tells me she got a new apartment. and she wants jaden back, now what the fuck? can i do about that? nothing or what? we were never married or anything so she does have full rights still. we never went to court, and i'm not paying child support. Also, here it is almost a year since i've seen layla...and christine calls me. wants to get back together. after she hasnt let me see my daughter in over a year. I'm stumped, what should i do...it seems like i'm losing a child...but gainin the other one, shits fucked up aignt it?

anyways heres some pics...maybe it'd help wit some opinions from yall


Heather





Jaden





Christine





Layla-Like i said its been a while since i seen her. so all i gots old pics

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Let ME fiiiinnd ooout

well first off, real talk

thast pretty pathetic that you couldn't be loyal to the women that's having your CHILD bro, like she is pregnate, and you off fucking around?

come on dawg, no REAL man that is IN LOVE with a women....gonna be doign that

i say you man up, and find out if that second baby is yours

if they both yours, you take care of em, like a real man


and allow things to happen...like, instead of forcing them, i mean if you can't stay loyal to a women while they have your child in they belly, you obviosuly shouldn't be with them

thats my 2 cents

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depending on where u live i can give u some legal advice.
first off when a child is born yalll both automatically have joint custody.
one has to actually apply to the family court for full custody....so if u havent done that than yall still have joint custody.
you will have a nasty custody battle in court.most times the court sides with the mother.
u have to prove she is an unfit mother.either way they are going to at least give her access to the kid.
first off,she should have been paying child support while u were raising ur kid.so thats a minus for her.
u wouldnt have to be paying any since u were raising the kid,duh.....
if u feel u can give your child the best home,than fight.prove that u got a job,stable home, n she is unstable cuz she up n left.if she does any drugs,etc,if she is out of work,if she doesnt have a stable place,they are going to look at all that.but she will get visitation.worst case scenario for her it might be supervised visits.
have lots of proof.witnesses,evidence if u want to discredit her.
but,the courts claim they do whats in the best interest of the child.
got any other questions holler
in the meantime stop makin babies

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never take your child from their mother..unless they unfit of course

like, i would NEVER do that to my daughter, EVER...doesnt matter if my g/f cheated on me and fucked ME over.


you child deserves a two parent life, alsong as both parents are good parents

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Well, I think you're an asshole.

You should pay for both children no matter what.

well if dude's been raising his son on his own for a year n a half,who is to say the best thing is for that kid to be with his mother?
has she seen him in that time?

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he doesnt have to pay for the kid he is raising.she does.

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^lol well the thing is...she wants him back monday. is there no way to stop that from happening UNTIL we go to court?

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Let ME fiiiinnd ooout

who has full custody?if yall never went to court,then both yall have custody.
she will have to take u to court to take that kid from u.
she cannot just take him.
i woudnt turn my son over to someone who was an absentee for a year an a half

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They were never married, she has full custody, he can fight it, but mothers usually win unless they are unstable.

i'd have to see the court order.
dude shoulda got something in writing when she left her kid.
if she does have full custody she can take him n he'll have to fight her.
unlikely but he might be able to get his kid back if they think she is unfit.

maybe its what u get for what u did
get in ur other kid's life if the bitch is willing.
u shoulda been fighting to see ur daughter n paying support

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i think a child needs both parents, real talk

i only had a mother, and now that i am a parent, i'll never leave my daughters life unless i'm dead

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You're a pretty shitty dude Kris, real talk.

my name is Chris too, fuck

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yeah but you're not chris with a K cuz that would be too cool

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