"Venting" on track not necessarily a good thing?
 

I've been reading up on anger, temperaments, and anger management. There is a theory that says venting anger isn't necessarily any healthier than bottling it up. Normally, people will say to find creative ways to "vent" the anger. But, some experts suggest that reliving or dredging up anger to "vent" it has harmful emotional/physiological effects. What some experts recommend is to find creative outlets to basically FORGET the anger and release it rather than express it in the form of venting.



Sounds like semantics...but I def. understand what they mean



Ok...I'm bored...


nuff said



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It's natural to be angry. Unless of course you don't have a prefrense for how things should be. If you do prefer shit to be a certain way "forgetting it" seems alot more unhealthy. Forgetting about how you feel is repression, venting is alot healthier imo.

^^Yea...I tend to agree...But, they're saying venting anger can actually cause u to experience more of the negative physiological effects of the original source of the anger...

Doing something unrelated to the source of the anger to "release it" is what they recommend...

I can agree with both sides tho...


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how the fuck can you possibly "forget it"??? if for example your father ditched you since you were an infant and your mother was an alcohaulic bitch that beat you day in and day out while you got bullied and picked on by everybody at school including your teachers and never given any breaks in life how can you just forget to be angry bout it and act like everythings ok??

By giving their life to jesus christ.









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fuck u kno about shit like dat, only happen to black folk, ya white ni99as dont kno bout struggle, thas why ya'll cant rap, so stop actin like u kno homie

Rofllll l

LMFAO!!! yea i got a perfect life cuz im white..lmao

btw deph GET ONLINE

Why is it so hard to forget about anger? I think the actual method of doing that is what confuses people, since you can't just forget about your feelings at whim. It is not so much forgetting your anger, it's more like evaporating it or taming it.

Try this, and tell me how you go. Think of a person that you dislike, somebody that always causes you grief and pisses you off for whatever reason, think about all the things that they have done to you to make you angry and feel that you are indeed angry with that person. Now try to understand that person. For example, say someone you trusted lied to you and deceived you in some way. You would of course be angry with that person, but think about it and understand them and there is no need to be angry. "They had their reasons to lie to me. It is sad for them that for whatever reason they had to lie, I feel a bit sorry for them, actually... Now they have to live with the guilt of lying (make sure you don't think this in a vengeful way, because that is not the meaning of something like this, just think about it without bias), and if they don't feel any guilt that is even worse. I feel very sorry for a person who cares so little about others, he is causing himself to suffer and doesn't even know any better. In feeling sympathy for this person, I want to help them. What can I do for this person?"

The thing that you can do is forgive them. Then your negative feelings of anger and hatred are completely gone, and all that's left is contentment, love and forgiveness. All very pleasant emotions. You will find that something like this can be applied to any situation, no matter how small or large... You just have to think about it and understand.

There is an old saying: "One who controls his anger when aroused is like a clever driver who controls a fast going carriage; the others are like those who merely hold the reins."

Of course you can be angry at times if you want. It's kind of fun lol. Just so long as you are capable of controlling it and it is just a matter of you letting your anger hang around for a while. I know when my gf cheated on me I was angry and sad for a day or two before I forgave her, just because they are pretty rare emotions and it was kind of cool to have them -_-.

^^^^No doubt...it's about "channeling" the anger in constructive ways more than just "venting" aimlessly...


I like ur wise saying at the end...There's one in the bible that says, "A man who controls his anger is greater than he who takes a city."





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^^ lmao that's gay as fuck man.

its just like in poetry... the objective correlative.

you don't say what you feel or try and describe your situation necessarily as much as you use language that brings that emotion out in the reader/listener.

the point of venting is so you stop being angry... cause you can temporarily forget..

but in the end its just gonna be a weight on your shoulder till you explode.

Lmao. That's some stupid ass shit. I know this person who had an overbearing mom and no father in his life and he would play with action figures but he'd also play with dolls, and his mom and his sister and her friends would call him a faggot because he played with dolls. He'd get beaten up in school even though he wasn't actually homosexual. People harassed him his entire life. I know a guy kidnapped by his temporarily insane mom three times when he was less than eleven years old, and when his mom stopped at a gas station he and his brother ran for it and his brother was too slow and young and got caught and the boy went back so his younger brother wouldn't be all alone.

I guess they just painted their skin and were really white underneath, right? Or maybe the government implanted those false memories into their brains so it would seem like white people have also struggled when they were actually sipping champagne and eating caviar? I know white girls who have been raped by strangers and by their family to the point that every time they see a father play with his kids they become angry because they don't know about love. I know people from the 70's where they were never taught anything about sex and had to discover everything on their own to the point that when it came to having sex they never took their clothes off. One girl wouldn't take her clothes off and the husband eventually left her. She met another guy who refused to have sex because he was scared of it and they lived a loveless, distant life and she eventually died of cancer and he died, lonely and of old age. I've seen white mothers sleeping in parks and on the streets with their little kids. I've seen dads struggling to support kids who kept getting into trouble. They lived in old houses heated by ovens, to the point that an $80 check one of the kids forged bounced.

Where the fuck's the caviar?

Grow up, you sheltered fuck, and stop whining over your race. And yes, I'm calling you sheltered, no matter how much shit you think you've seen. Shit happens to everyone, colored or not. You're going to end up fucking working at McDonalds living with two roommates, with beer bottles all over the place because everyone is too lazy or too high or drunk to do anything about them. You'll eventually grow up and look back and see how fucking stupid you were as a kid.

You're a waste of the government's money. Fuck off.

Now that you've got your reading on anger, and anger management completed, you should try reading up on Ego-Death and Self Control Cybernetics. word.

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