what to say / how to do it cuz you dont know what the girl likes to hear or how she likes to get boned?

I mean im cool nowadays with my girl but i remember this one time with this girl i started going harder and kinda pulled her hair (not hard) and said some shit like "ohh yaa you like when i fuck ur pussy really hard huh" but unfortunatly she didnt like that and had to be a tight ass about it no pun intended. She still let me continue but it was awkward...

After that i'd seem weird to girls cuz i'd know what i was doing when i was fuckinng but i'd have to ask so many questions like "ohh do you care if i swear and talk dirty?" "can I pull ur hair? or just run my hands through your hair?" cuz i'd be too nervous to just start going hard and aggresively grab on her different body parts and gently pull her hair and say shit like "yeaa im gonna fuck your tight pussy until it loosens up on m dick" etc etc and sometimes when i get into it i sound like im a lil mad even lmao yall know what im talking bout

and usually with the majority of girls like it like that and actually get into it themselves and start saying shit I never woulda expected cuz they didn't seem like the type which is why i was nervous with how to go through with it and had to ask them what was ok for me to do/say

so yea i was just curious bout that thinking bout it

y'all just get your fuck on and do your thing that you normally do regardless or try to figure the girl out yourself before you get it poppin and judge it off that or start going and judge her reactions to what you do and say or do you ask her like me?

It's awkward as hell when you're fuckin a girl and you wanna say something like "i wanna fuck your pussy so hard" but instead you gotta say "i wanna give it to you really good" cuz you dont wanna offend them and ruin the mood

anyone go through that? what do you do?